Important Questions To Ask Before Getting Married

Getting married is supposed to be one of the good things in person’s life. Although you may think you know your spouse well enough but there is always a certain measure of uncertainty and risk involved. Before you finalize your marriage agreement dears, kindly take a step back and answer these 8 questions first:

1. Do you really love him/her?

It’s very important that you actually enjoy spending significant amounts of time with someone you’re about spending the rest of your life with. Do you care about the details of his/her life? Do you love him/her at his/her worst?

2. Are you ready to be responsible for a family?

If you are a man marriage is about taking on responsibility and being a provider. If you’re not ready to be fully responsible, you’re not ready to get married dear.

3. Do you trust him/she completely?

A strong marriage is built on solid trust. Can you trust that he or she will provide a safe home for your feelings and needs? Are you be sure you can let your guard down and be vulnerable with him or her? If you don’t trust him/her to some reasonable extents, please think twice about getting married.

4. Do you really know her?

Aside knowing the basics about the woman or man you want to marry, you do also need to be able to discuss the effects of him or her upbringing, yes his/her views on relationships and marriage and the most important is to known her relationship history. 

5. Discuss whether or not we want children

Assuming that you both want to be parents someday, sit down with your fiancé and have a true heart-to-heart. How the two of you expect to discipline your children,how many children you want and so on.

6. Does she want to keep her last name or change it? 

Agree with me that not every woman is keen on giving up a name that reflects her personal and professional identity, heritage and family history. There’s no “right” answer, you just need to know what feels right to her and what’s important to you.

7.  Can you imagine being with her for the next 50+ years?

Look and passion do fade, do you see yourself able to be with this same woman/man having spirited conversations sitting on the porch when the two of you are old and gray? If you can’t see yourself with this woman in a few months, let alone a few years, please do not go ahead with the marriage.

8. Under what circumstances would you consider divorce?

Infidelity? Dishonesty? Abuse? Though, there’s no right answer here, but it helps to reduce any uncertainty if addressed before you get married as he level of commitment you are both bringing to the table.